In Retrospect….


As the year ends, so does my goal to go on a date with 50 different guys.  I only made it to 34 (ish, it’s technically 35 if you count my potential “TOWWETB” – I’ll write about him in the new year).  Boo.  I hate when I don’t meet my goals.  But through this journey, I’ve learned a lot of lessons – about dating, relationships, men, and myself in general.  I’ve gotten back into writing with this blog, which was one of my main goals for the entire year.  Writing this blog has made me realize so many things that I either refused to acknowledge in the past or just didn’t know about, and for that I am thankful (maybe this should have been a Thanksgiving post, with me being thankful and all….).

And I think the one thing I am most grateful for is all of you wonderful, lovely, beautiful people who have been following my journey this entire year!!  🙂  Without you, my blog wouldn’t be what it is today.  I honestly never expected my little idea of dating a bunch of guys to turn into what it is now.  You’ve all given me the motivation to keep on writing and keep on dating and staying strong in times where I thought I would just give up.  I am so thankful for you all and I do hope you all continue to follow me in the future (just fyi, I am keeping the blog, but changing it a bit).  I feel I have made so many new friendships through this blog (I think you all know who you are :-)) and I am also very grateful for that!!

The reason my blog inspiration, if you will

The reason my blog started…my inspiration, if you will

So here is a list of the things I learned throughout my journey in dating….

  • Dating is FUCKING exhausting.  It takes lots of planning and preparation, not to mention time.  Lots of time.
  • Online dating and I do not get along.  At all.  It’s awkward, I’m awkward on it, and everything is just awkward.  Granted, I chose a site that was a bit different than the norm.  But I still didn’t like the experience.  To me, it’s too superficial.
  • Before this blog I was extremely picky.  I realize there was a good reason for this…
  • But with that being said, sometimes in giving a chance to a guy that I would never usually give a chance to was eye opening and made me think twice about/before rejecting a guy. (“Boss Man”)
  • It’s silly to put all your eggs in one basket if things aren’t 100% clear.
  • My intuition with men is almost always right
  • Patience.  It’s something I personally don’t have, but something I’m going to need to make something work.  Kind of goes hand in hand with that first thing I mentioned.
  • Guys are just as nervous/awkward as girls about dating.  Sometimes even more.
  • Guys have just as much of a problem and questions about dating as girls do.
  • I send mixed signals…not on purpose, but because I get scared of being hurt.
  • There’s a possibility that I am just way too busy to be in a relationship (as pointed out to me by “Ninja Monkey”)
  • Being set up on a date with someone is probably one of the worst possible ways to  meet someone.
  • Sometimes you’ve got to take a risk and make yourself vulnerable in order to find someone.
  • Just because someone has a girlfriend/boyfriend, doesn’t mean they’re completely monogamous or off limits.  Stay away from these types of people.  They are bad news. (a.k.a. “Mr. Big (Present)”)
  • I can fully attest that I am a now a firm believer of that quote saying that sometimes the right person is in front of you the entire time, but you don’t realize it till later.  5 years later, in my case (fingers crossed).  I’ll write more about this one later…:-)
So true.  It's something I really need to live by.

So true. It’s something I really need to live by.

So I’m probably going to go on a small hiatus from writing in the New Year.  I need to figure out exactly what I’m going to do with my blog, catch up on everyone else’s blog (sorry for the neglect!), and figure things out in my life outside of dating that need to be settled.  But don’t worry, I can’t stay away for too long – there are too many men out there for me to write about still!!  😉

15 thoughts on “In Retrospect….

  1. Great retropective on your experiences and blogging… It does help having a supportive blogging collective who “get” what you are going through and where you are “at”. Thanks for your support for 2012. Write from your heart in 2013, we love sharing the journey!!! X

  2. Great post! I’ll miss you during your hiatus, but I’m sure I’ll hear from you soon. 🙂 Good luck with the dude with the long acronym 🙂 I’m sure things will work out!! Happy New Year!

    • I’ll miss you too, but don’t worry, I think I’ll be returning pretty soon…can’t stay away for too long!!

      I’m going to write a post about “TOWWETB”, but I’m not sure if things are going as well as I had planned…=(. Happy New Year to you too!!

  3. I agree with you on the “intuition” line. My gut instinct on almost everything in life is almost always correct. Then I think about it and come with reasons why my gut instinct is wrong.

    I agree guys are more awkward and nervous about dating.

    I also agree when it comes to being set up. This is why I tell every girl that tries not to set me up. If they want me to meet someone just invite me out when they’re hanging out with that person and don’t tell that person about me at all. I’m a closer you just have to get me in the room!

    Good luck with the new guy!

    • Wait, I don’t get it…so your gut instinct is almost always right but you still second guess it?? I’m confused lol.

      You know, I never realized how awkward and nervous they were about dating until last year. It’s an eye-opener, that’s for sure.

  4. Yay! I’m so excited you are going to keep writing! I can’t wait to hear all about TOWWETB! Here’s to a happy year!

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  6. Hey Leslie! Wow, I love that you have learned so much from your dating adventures. I’m sure that can only help you in whatever future relationship you decide to settle down in 🙂

    In the meantime, I look forward to seeing what’s in store for your blog this new year! Happy blogging 🙂

    • Thanks for all the support!! I definitely do hope my experiences do help me in my future relationships!! 🙂 Here’s to a great year of blogging for both of us!!

  7. Hi Leslie,

    I would agree with the quote, it’s true. The beginning is always the hardest. I hope you don’t give up this blog because maybe you’ll find your Mr Right here. Who knows? I know some people who find their soul mate through blogging. Miracles always happen to those who believe, right?

    Also, I would like to thank you for following my blog. My mission is to serve humanity through the written word and my blog is the avenue where it all starts. It is my hope that my posts find a place in your heart and are of any use to you, as they are to others. Thank you, many blessings and much love to you 🙂

    Subhan Zein

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