How We Met: We met last weekend at a bar in the suburbs. I don’t usually EVER go to this bar, but “Indian Warrior” (by the way, she started a fashion blog, check it out!) wanted to go out somewhere nearby, so that’s where we ended up. Every time I’ve gone to this bar, I’ve always bumped into someone I know from high school, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it’s not something I really want to do either. So I usually avoid it at all costs. Anyways, since it’s close to where we all live, we all got pretty drunk. Being the friendly drunk that I am, I started talking to this guy. He offered to get me a shot so I was game. I didn’t really think anything special of him. He just offered to buy me a drink so I hung out with him for awhile. By this time, I was already pretty drunk and to be honest, I couldn’t even remember his name by the end of the night. But I gave him my number anyhow.
*Physical Aesthetics: 6
*Overall Rating: 6-7
The Date: Well, I’m just going to go ahead and start this off with why I gave him such low ratings. He’s not a bad person by any means and it was a lovely date; there was just nothing special about him or the date. The date was very forgettable and so is he. Hence the nickname (I couldn’t come up with anything better or anything that really stood out about him). So there.
Anyways, if I remember correctly, “Humdrum” had called me the night we met right after we all left. But I couldn’t remember his name so I didn’t want to answer. He then proceeded to text me the next day and we chatted for a bit. Basically, after that, he texted me everyday up until our date. We finally set a day where he would take me out for dinner. With this, I became a bit apprehensive to go on the date with him based on his response to my response on the restaurant he wanted to take me to (see He Said What?!). I felt his comment was very out of the blue and insecure (which I called him out for). And then I remembered back to when we met, and one of the first things he said to me was, “So where is the boyfriend or ex-boyfriend?” Not exactly the best thing to say to a girl when you’re first getting to know her. He also tried to get me to hang out with him the day before our date even though we had already set the date and “tried” to compliment me by telling me I was the prettiest girl at the bar that night. If you know me, “compliments” (yes it’s in quotations for a reason) like that don’t impress me. They’re very generic and it’s not exactly a compliment when the bar we met at NEVER has any attractive girls – the usual patrons are lazy girls who don’t care about what they look like so they appear to not have gotten ready to go out. It’s not surprising to see a girl in sweats or pajamas there. Putting on a bit of makeup and wearing a sparkly top automatically makes any girl the hottest girl at that bar.
So after all of our texting, I wasn’t sure how this date was going to go. It was snowing somewhat heavily, so I was hoping that maybe he’d bail or something, but he didn’t. And since it’s been awhile since I’ve been on an actual date, I figured I might as well just go for it. So I met him at the restaurant that we had decided on, and he was actually fairly different from when he had been texting, which makes me think he was maybe nervous on what to say to me through text? I guess it’s just more so a lesson to myself that I shouldn’t judge a guy based on the text messages he sends me. Anyways, conversation went really well during dinner. We talked about everything from the bar that we met at (apparently he doesn’t go there very often either), to college, to how we both ended up where we are now. “Humdrum” is part owner of a gym, so we talked a lot about fitness which is nice, since I’m huge into fitness. It’s funny to hear how the same stereotypical people end up at every gym: the true gym buffs who are there for a workout, the later 30 to early 40 housewives who have nothing better to do with their time than go hang out at the gym, the weirdos who think by just standing on a treadmill you’ll lose weight, and the people who just go to the gym to hit on people or get hit on. It’s lovely, really. It was also nice going to dinner with someone who was just as conscious about eating as I was, considering neither of us even touched the bread served to us. Usually I feel bad when I go out with people if I don’t eat as horribly as they do so I give in. No worries of that here!! He’s a fairly big sports fan, so we talked a lot about sports as well. Overall, dinner and conversation went well. Nothing too special, but good nonetheless.
“Humdrum” plays hockey and their game had been moved to right after our date instead of the next night. He wasn’t going to go because we were on a date, but I thought it’d be fun to watch him play so we went to the rink. He thought I’d be bored, but I actually really enjoyed watching him play!! Unfortunately, he didn’t play as much as the rest of his teammates because he had broken his stick during the first part of the game and had to go fix it. But they ended up winning, even though they were down for the first 45 minutes. By the time the game was done, I was so tired. So instead of going and drinking with the rest of the team I told “Humdrum” I was leaving and we’d just hang out another time.
He texted me later in the night to thank me for coming to his game and to tell me that we should go out sometime and get all our friends together. Why? I’m not sure.
*Positives: He’s nice, a gentleman, easy to talk to, the conversation never stopped, we have quite a bit in common, he’s good company
*Negatives: His initial comments about a boyfriend or an ex-boyfriend in the picture came off as really insecure to me, there was nothing really special about him that stood out to me
Second Date?: He alluded to one, and I went along with it so possibly. He also did mention that his birthday is this upcoming weekend. But I haven’t heard from him since last night after texting everyday up until our date. So we’ll see what happens.
I’m actually quite worried that I come across in my first dates like Humdrum did with you.
I should warn everyone who reads my blog, especially men – I’m one of those girls who are in the minority. I’m SUPER picky, very perceptive of people’s personalities right off the bat, and I’d rather be single than with someone who I’m not head over heels for. So you’ve gotta take what you read with a grain of salt.
With that being said though, this date wasn’t bad by any means. It just wasn’t exciting – at least for me. I’m sure there are plenty of girls out there who would have enjoyed this a lot more than I did. It just goes back to me being super picky.
Why do you feel that you come off this way??
I feel that I come across with way because I continue to have a string of first dates with no followups. Granted, some of them were my choice.
Maybe there was just not enough of a connection to have a follow up date?? When you HAVE had a follow up date, is there a different feeling during the date?
Well, now that I’ve been on a second date, yes! The feeling was different. A bit more comfortable and relaxed, despite flubbing the potential goodbye kiss *again*
At least the date went well. I’d give him another go. I bet he could be alright and maybe he’ll have a secret (everytime I typed that, it came out sexcret….Freudian slip?) that’s not so humdrum haha
Haha LOVE the Freudian slip. Yeah, I’ll most probably end up hanging out with him again. As far as anything past friends though, not looking so likely. But we’ll see what happens!!