When we were all younger, innocent and naive to the world, we would write notes that said this to the ones we liked on 3-hole punched lined paper (does that still exist??), in hopes that they would check the box marked “yes.” God, if only life and relationships were really THAT easy…
So this has to be my biggest downfall in dating/relationships, and I’m hoping I am not the only one out there with this issue. But I HAVE A PROBLEM TELLING GUYS I LIKE THEM. Seriously. It’s an issue.
Once upon a time, I used to be really good at it. After a couple of weeks or so, I would tell a guy just how I felt about him. Now, I’m not saying I got the response I wanted all the time, but I was at least able to do it. Now, having been hurt so many times, I’m so scared of ruining whatever is going on with a guy, that I’m too scared to straight up tell a guy I like him and I just continue with whatever is going on at the moment. Which is both great and horrible at the same time.
Reasons Why It’s Great:
-There’s usually no drama
-No one is ever angry at the other for misunderstandings
-Going with the flow usually makes things easier and there’s no pressure or expectations
-The “awkward conversation” (as I like to call it) never has to happen
-I never get rejected
Reasons Why It’s Horrible:
-Guys never realize I actually like them (in my head, guys should just assume I like them if I act a certain way around them…stupid I know)
-I end up hurting myself by overthinking things and making things up in my head
-If I talk (a.k.a. flirt) with another guy, the guy I like automatically thinks I’m a whore or that I’m not serious about him which then leads to…
-Him finding a girlfriend. Who isn’t me.
-Some things go on longer than they ever should
-I never know where I stand with a guy or what I can/can’t/should/shouldn’t do, as far as being able to date other men at the same time or not
-Someone usually gets hurt…and that someone is usually me.
As one can see, clearly the horrible reasons outweigh the great reasons.
So what I guess I’m trying to get at with this post is that I need a few pointers on growing some balls and telling a guy I like him. Ladies, what are some of your tips on telling guys you like them?? Gentleman, how would you like a woman to tell you she likes you? And don’t answer with, “Just straight up tell him,” because that doesn’t help the situation. Also, hints and insinuations isn’t the answer here either, considering I do that constantly and still get nowhere.
Happy Valentine’s Day everyone!!