Note: This wasn’t an actual legitimate date, but I am counting it based on the context of the situation. It was like 3 vignettes of a date if anything.
How We Met: I took a trip this past weekend to the city known for its windy ways. I spent most of my first day there just exploring the city by myself since my cousin who had met up with me couldn’t stay and my friend who I was staying with was still at work. I window shopped, went to the beach and laid out, went up to an observatory to look at views of the city, but after awhile I was getting super lonely, not having talked to a single person (in a legitimate conversation) in hours. I finally decided to do the one thing I know how to do well: go get some dinner and have a drink. Since cops roam the city there quite freely, I decided to ask them for some suggestions. A restaurant I hadn’t heard of was recommended to me and was only a block away so I decided to go there. Initially, I thought I would be a complete outsider considering the fact that I was in my swimsuit with just a short little dress on, no makeup on whatsoever, hair having sand in it, and the restaurant/bar seemed a bit fancy. But I learned quickly that I fit right in. I sat myself in between some men at the bar, and that’s where it all began.
-Rating (sorry, this might get confusing):
*Physical Aesthetics: “The Hangovers” – 8; “Oldie” – 7 (for his age); “Bartender 1” – 9; “Bartender 2” – 6 (I kind of don’t remember what he looks like…)
*Appearance: “The Hangovers” – 8; “Oldie” – 7; “Bartender 1” and “Bartender 2” – they were wearing uniforms, but I’ll give them both a 10
*Personality: 10 for everyone
*Manners: 10 for everyone
*Intelligence: 8 for everyone
*Confidence: “The Hangovers” – 8; “Oldie” – 9; “Bartender 1” and “Bartender 2” – 10
*Overall Rating: 10 for everyone!!
The “Dates”:
I’m not sure how speed dating works since I have never been on a speed date (which I do need to get to doing soon here…), but I can only imagine it would be something similar to this. Or at least I would like it to be something like this. The minute I sat down at the bar, I had men talking to me at all sides (except behind me). “Bartender 1” greeted to me and offered me a drink, one of the guys from “The Hangovers” (I’m collectively calling their group this) immediately starts talking to me, and eventually “Oldie” began to talk to me as well. I’m assuming a competition was going on between “Bartender 1” and “Bartender 2” because then they both started speaking to me and tried to be “my” bartender. We all shot the shit for a good while, at least an hour or so.
“Bartender 1” – The first thing I thought of when I saw this one was how attractive he was. I’m not a huge fan of blondes, but this one was so handsome! Tall, built well, and so sweet. It turns out he’s from Michigan and had moved down to the city with a girlfriend about 2 years ago. It didn’t work out with his girlfriend (of course it didn’t) but he loved it there so much and was making good money at his job there at the restaurant that he stayed. He said he makes a lot of money working in the industry and that no matter what bar you work at, you’re going to make some good money. I told him how I was thinking about moving out there and he gave me a suggestion of some bars I could apply to where I was guaranteed to be hired. He also gave me suggestions on places to eat/drink while I was in town and told me if I called “Bartender 2” that we could all hang out. I don’t know much about “Bartender 2” since he kind of just started talking to me out of nowhere when he was never my bartender to begin with, but he was cool too. He ended up giving me his number and told me to call him so we could hang out while I was in town. Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to hang out with either of them because of scheduling and just being busy in general. Hopefully they are still there when and if I end up moving out there, or even if I just visit again!
“The Hangovers” – The reason why I’ve chosen this nickname is because this was the group of guys to my right who were in town having their “Hangover” type weekend. Apparently, they’re friends from awhile ago and they’re all married, but every year, once a year, they pick a city to go to and hang out with just the guys for the whole weekend. During this weekend, they get extremely drunk, tour whatever city they are in, and go to games (this time they were going to a Cubs vs. Rockies game). They’re all around their late 30’s/early 40’s and were super sweet. I honestly can’t remember any of their names even though we all did a bunch of introductions, but I do know that one is from Dallas/Fort Worth and one was from Argentina. Also, one of their friends who came later had made a bet with them about last years fantasy football and lost, so had to shave his beard into a mustache. He came in all mustached out, having it turned up on the sides and everything. He also had us all feel his face (since he went to a barber to get it done) and it literally did feel like a baby’s butt hahaha. They were all super nice and super sweet and super respectful. In fact, the one who initially started talking to me accidentally touched my leg and kind of freaked out, apologizing profusely. It was very sweet and cute. They’re all super devoted to their families and wives, they just like to do the once a year “Guy’s Night” weekend. They all wished me the best of time while I was in the city and headed off, extremely inebriated, into the night.
“Oldie” – I didn’t even take notice of “Oldie” initially because, well…he is old. Like really old (for me), probably in his 50’s or so. But we started talking as well when I told him I was in town for the weekend. He himself was in town for a business trip and is originally from Boston but has lived in New Jersey for some time now. He works in sales (didn’t specify what exactly) and apparently visits that restaurant every time he’s in town (if you’re all curious, the restaurant is Ditka’s and I highly recommend it because it’s delicious). “Bartender 1” mentioned this area of bars called the Viagra Triangle, and “Oldie” pressed him for more details about this area, being completely serious. So I’m assuming “Oldie” is quite the dirty old bastard. He was leaving the city the next morning and then traveling to Brazil for more business, so whatever “sales” job this guy has seems to be pretty good.
Honestly, the main thing to take away from this “date” is that it made me realize just how much is out there and how much I haven’t discovered yet. Like I said in one of my previous posts, I was getting super sad with everyone finding someone to be with and me not having even a single soul. But after this encounter, I’ve decided that I’m perfectly fine without someone and there’s million of guys out there I have yet to experience. So all in all, this was an amazing experience for me.
*Positives: They were all really nice and super polite, I got free drinks from “Bartender 1” & “Bartender 2”, I got great recommendations of places to go, I had a wonderful first night in the city because of them…the list could go on, honestly they were all so great!
*Negatives: “Bartender 1” and “Bartender 2” don’t live anywhere near me, “The Hangovers” are all married, “Oldie” is too old.
Second First Date?: Well I think it’s fairly clear that a date will never happen between “The Hangovers” (they’re married) nor with “Oldie” (he’s too old). But the other two…possibly. I’d prefer “Bartender 1” over “Bartender 2” but I’d be willing with either.
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