Archive | May 2012

Date #15: “Hollywood”

Note: This wasn’t exactly a date, but due to the nature of the situation I am counting it.  Plus it was my birthday, so I think it 100% completely counts!!

How We Met:  Oh boy.  I’ve got a bit to write here since this was like a couple months in the making.  We met a couple months ago at a night club downtown.  It was my friend’s birthday and I was waiting for her to get there, but for some reason she was taking FOREVER.  I had come there by myself so I waited outside and just started talking to the bouncers because I didn’t know what else to do.  They were really nice and both of them were pretty cute, but one of them wasn’t even 21 yet which was a huge red flag for me haha.  The one who was my age (“Hollywood”) was the one I was primarily talking to.  My friends seriously took like an hour to get there, so me and this one had plenty of time to talk.  He acts/wants to act (like as in be an actor), hence the nickname I gave him here.   He was sweet though, even offered to buy me a drink since I was just waiting there.  When my friend finally got there, I pretty much said bye and that was that; didn’t think anything of him, except the fact that I didn’t know his name.

Two weeks later, I ended up back at that club.  I saw “Hollywood” so I asked him if he remembered me from two weeks ago, which I honestly didn’t think he would since so many people pass through there.  But he did, and we started talking again, only this time it was much flirtier (I don’t think that’s a word but whatever).  And this is where our whole “Cat and Mouse” game started.  Since my friends had went off to a different bar and I had met a really hot guy from Bosnia (I actually mentioned both the Bosnian and “Hollywood” in a previous entry: this one), I gave “Hollywood” my number to check up on me and make sure no crazies were trying to take me home.  But as I was leaving, I told him since he had my number anyways he should just call me sometime.  To this, he said, “Maybe.”  Now, I don’t like hearing the word “maybe” when I want something.  If I give a guy my number, I expect him to call.  In fact, I rarely give out my number to begin with, so you’re pretty damn special if I give it to you.  Anyways, very long story shortened, we’ve been playing this game of whether he’s going to call/text me ever.  At one point, he told me if he called me I wouldn’t come visit him at work anymore, which is both stupid and somewhat true.  So literally, we’ve been playing stupid games for maybe 8-ish weeks now.  Normally, I wouldn’t be putting up with this bullshit, but for the sake of my blog, and the fact that I was so drawn to him for some reason, I put up with it.  I visited him at work almost every weekend.  And then I’d get the same “Maybe I’ll call you” response from him at the end of the night.

Finally, last night, he text me since it was my birthday =).  And here’s where the “date” begins.

-Rating:

*Physical Aesthetics: 9

*Appearance: 10 (this is because I only ever see him dressed up in a suit…this could change)

*Personality: 8

*Manners: 10 and 1 (I’ll explain later)

*Intelligence: 9

*Confidence: 7

*Overall Rating: 8

The “Date”: So it being my birthday, I got bottle service at the club “Hollywood” works at.  Being extremely hungover from my celebrating from the night before, I attempted to not get as drunk.  I succeeded, but I was still pretty drunk.  Anywhoo, at the end of the night I decided to throw a stink about “Hollywood” having my number and never calling me or texting me even though he always says he is going to or might.  I told him to just delete my number and that I didn’t want him to have it anymore since he doesn’t use it anyways.  And as I walked away to go join my friends at another bar, he texted me =).

Being a bit drunk, a lot of the night was blurry.  But I must have asked him something about my birthday present (I had been asking him what he was going to get me for my birthday for the past couple of weeks and he told me he doesn’t buy things, but he could give me a sexual present…go figure horny boy), because then the plan was that I was to go home with him after he got off work.  I told him I needed breakfast in the morning and a ride home, and he agreed to it.  So I waited for him to get off work which really wasn’t very long…or maybe I was just drunk and didn’t notice.  But we get in his car and I was happy to discover he drives a stick (this may be weird, but I have a thing about guys and driving stick…it’s a necessity for me for them to know how).  We dropped his cousin (the other bouncer I had met the first time I met “Hollywood”) off first (or maybe it’s not his cousin…I don’t know they both keep fucking with me when it comes to that) and then we headed to his place.  I honestly didn’t know what to expect of him, since this was our first time hanging out outside of me visiting him at work.  So we get to his place and I was happy to find that 1.) He lives by himself and 2.) He had the Shakespeare Anthology and a copy of the OED.  Yes, super nerdy, but having been an English major, I love that stuff.  So that brought up his hottness factor a bunch.  So thereafter (and because I was drunk), I pretty much just decided to pounce on him and so we made out, got naked, and although he wanted to fuck (and so did I), it was our first time hanging out so I put a stop to that pretty quick.  God, I love being a tease.  Anywhoo, I decided that we should watch a movie.  But in sitting there for like 20 minutes trying to find one, he noticed that I was getting really sleepy.  At one point, I laid on him and closed my eyes for like 5 seconds.  And here’s where things go sour….

I put that his manners were a 10 and a 1.  Normally, I would just stick with a 10 because he truly is good to me.  But as soon as he saw me getting sleepy and falling asleep, he told me I had to go home.  Yep.  And I don’t live ANYWHERE near where he does.  He offered to give me a ride home and grabbed my stuff for me and I threw the biggest fit.  Yes, I was drunk and about to pass out, but I couldn’t (and still don’t really) understand why he was kicking me out!  He told me it was because he was going to be up for another couple of hours and that I was already falling asleep so it would be best if I just went home since we wouldn’t be really hanging out anyways.  I told him I could sleep now and we could hang out in the morning, but he wasn’t having it.  Seriously, dick move.  Sweet that he was offering me a ride home, but dick move.  I almost started crying and I literally did throw a fit.  I will give him props for being straight forward with me and at one point asking me if I was a 4 year old because I was throwing a fit like one and it wasn’t attractive.  He told me this was him being a gentleman by having me go home instead of staying (maybe he would have taken advantage of me sleeping??) which did not make sense to me at all.  But yes…he kicked me out.  I told him I didn’t want him to give me a ride home, so instead I took a taxi (and $50 later, I kind of wish I had taken him up on his offer for the ride home).  I told him I hated him and I never wanted to hang out with him or talk to him again (which of course, isn’t true, but it sounded good at the time).  He told me we would hang out when I got home from my trip (I’m going international in a couple of days).  And that was that.  I seriously wanted to cry my entire cab ride home, but I didn’t.

*Positives: He FINALLY texted me, he can drive stick, he has the OED and Shakespeare Anthology, he’s attractive, he lives by himself, he’s into the arts (since he wants to act and all), he’s protective of me when need be, he seems to have my best interest in mind (most of the time), I’m super attracted to him…there’s a lot

*Negatives: He’s lied to me about dumb shit (his age, his penis size, etc.), he’s a bit insecure because he gets jealous when I bring guys around, HE KICKED ME OUT OF HIS PLACE BECAUSE I WAS SLEEPY and I’m pretty sure that takes the cake to all negativity.

*Second First Date?: Call me crazy, but I think I would still give him one more chance.  After he kicked me out, I seriously never wanted to talk to him again.  But I don’t know what it is….I am still super drawn to him.  Maybe it’s the fact that I don’t know that much about him, so to me he’s a bit mysterious, or maybe I’m just being desperate.  I told myself I wouldn’t go for assholes anymore, but kicking me out was a pretty asshole move.  So I’m not really sure.  I guess we’ll just see what happens.  This was the one guy that I honestly thought I’d fall for, but as of right now, I don’t see that happening.

Random: The Quintessential Gemini

Yep….that’s me.  To a T.  I’m being 100% serious too.  If you take any astrological magazine, article, book, etc., you will discover that it is a complete description of yours truly.  Don’t get me wrong, there are a few things Gemini in which I don’t relate to, but for the most part I am 100% Gemini.  I am also fairly into astrology, if you couldn’t tell by the fact that I am writing an entry about my own sign.  Don’t worry, I’m no clairvoyant or clairvoyant-in-the-making by any means; I just enjoy and know quite a bit about astrology!  =)

With this being said, we have just recently (today) entered the sign of Gemini!!  This also means that my birthday is coming up (this weekend!!  whoohoo!!!).  Because of this, I most likely will not be having a date this week.  I’ve just got so much going on this week, not only in preparation for my birthday, but just living in general (birthdays, graduations, 5ks…you know).  There may be a slight chance that I will have a pseudo date coming up this week before my birthday, but that all depends on if I get a phone call/text from a certain someone (refer to my entry I’ll Call You Later…Not!! for hints on who this person may be).  I did get an invitation to his friend’s birthday, and while he told me where it is and what time they’ll be there, I told him I was only going if I got a call or a text.  So we’ll see.

Anywhoo, I thought I would write this for the following reasons: 1.) I wanted to give you all an insight on the dating mind of a Gemini, because a lot of it runs true for me and 2.) I will eventually tie this into my blog and dating and…yeah…everything else.

Oh this is so true about me!! And to be honest, even if you’re incredibly attractive, it can still be hard!!  Oh…and whoever did this used “your” incorrectly, it should be “you’re.”  Just saying…

For my birthday, I WOULD like a date.  Maybe not an actual date, like one I would write for my blog with ratings and what not, but a guy to have fun with on my birthday (and take that in whatever way you’d like, because I probably mean it in that way 😉 ).  I seem to be under the curse that on my birthday, I never have a guy.  Now, I’m not complaining, because if you know me, you know I will make any situation fun no matter how badly things are going.  Besides, I truly believe that my birthday is all about me, and only me, and fuck anyone or anything that would ever take that away from me (lack of a guy, a guy making me cry because he’s a jackass, stupid girls, etc.)  Only one birthday I’ve had has ended badly, and I will never let that happen again…fucking “Mr. Big (Past)” made me cry on my 22nd birthday.  Clearly, there’s a reason I keep him (and should leave him) in the past.  I’m going to have fun on my upcoming birthday no matter what, but I just feel it would be the icing on the cake to have a special someone to help me celebrate it (and perhaps carry me to my car…ya know, the norm on my birthday).  I know “Boss Man” will be making an appearance one of the days I’m celebrating (fyi: I celebrate my birthday for multiple days) and while I didn’t invite him (I have reasons, and I will write an update about him soon!), I have a slight feeling that “Mr. Big (Present)” might show his face, or if not, have some part in my celebrations this weekend.  I’m usually right about my gut feelings, so I guess we’ll see what happens.  I did invite “Buddy” (not going to lie, I kind of felt obligated), but he only said maybe, so who knows if he’ll actually show up.  And of course, the one I’m “in love” with at the moment, my lovely bouncer (refer to my Updates page, though I will make a new updates page and include him) will also be there since he’s working and I’m doing my second day of celebration at the club he works at.  I think I’ll nickname him “Hollywood” so I can stop referring to him as “the bouncer” and since he wants to be an actor…yeah.  Besides, something is going to happen between us eventually.

Okay enough of the sidetracking.  Basically, we’ll see what the weekend brings and hopefully it’s a fantastic, man-filled birthday!!  =)

And since I said I would give you all an insight on the mind of a Gemini when it comes to dating, so here it is:

For real.

Completely. As a smart man once sang, “You can’t have one without the other!”

Going back to the fact that us Geminis are completely fickle, this holds very true in my life.

YES YES YES!!!

Welcome to my life….

There is no truer statement about a Gemini (and myself) than this.

 

All above Gemini snippets taken from Zodiac Facts!!  =)

Date #14: “Youngin”

How We Met: We met some time ago at a mutual friend’s house party.  I had always thought he was cute, but he’s quite a bit younger than me, so I never though of him as more than a friend/acquaintance.  Not that I have anything against younger guys (I usually go for them in opposed to older), but he’s just a bit more younger than I would prefer.  In fact, one party that we were at, the little fucker lied to me about his age.  He told me he was a year older than he really was.  You’d think it was only women who did that, but no guys do this too!!  Anyways, it had been awhile since we had seen each other and we hadn’t really talked in awhile, with the exception of a few Facebook comments here and there.  The other day, he messaged me on Facebook chat, we talked a bit and he asked me out.  So yeah. Haha.

-Rating:

*Physical Aesthetics: 8

*Appearance: 9

*Personality: 7

*Manners: 6

*Intelligence: 6, though again, like my previous date, we didn’t really talk about anything where I was able to determine this

*Confidence: 10

*Overall Rating: 8

The Date:  So this date started off fairly strange to begin with.  He had me meet him at a hospital so we could see his friend who was injured in a horse accident the other day.  Don’t get me wrong, I do feel very badly for his friend since his friend was thrown off a horse and now has internal bleeding with a cracked skull.  I can’t even imagine how I would feel if one of my friends were in that situation.  But I just thought it was kind of strange that he wanted me to come with him to visit his friend considering 1.) I’ve never met this guy before and 2.) I feel like I would almost be intruding by showing up to visit him since I don’t know him.  Fortunately for me, when we went into the ICU to try and visit him, we weren’t allowed to for some reason.  So we decided to leave.

Neither of us really knew what to do.  I suggested going to grab a drink at a nearby bar or restaurant bar, which he didn’t want to do.  He suggested we just go hang out at his house…I think we all know what that suggests, so I wasn’t into that.  We settled on buying some shooters and driving up one of the mountains and just hanging out.  Initially I thought we were going to go to the popular “spot” that all the college kids go to (one that I went to myself quite a bit when I was in college), but instead we took another road and went to a more remote spot.  Honestly, this spot was BEAUTIFUL!!  It’s very secluded with VERY few lights, so you could see the stars perfectly!!  We parked the car a few feet from the edge of a cliff and sat there on the front of his car, drinking shooters, and looking at the stars.  Then I was forced to make out with “Youngin”, and not wanting to be rude, I did so.  A couple of times.  In between looking at the stars.  I’m pretty sure he was a lot drunker than he led on, because he repeated a lot of the same things over and over again and he was also being super cheesy with the things he said (refer to He Said WHAT?! for this one’s contributions).  In fact, now that I think about it, he may have even been high.  He was speaking really slowly and laughing A LOT.   Granted, he had warned me initially that he was going to be completely inappropriate, and he did not fail to deliver.  Though it was sweet, at one point he had told me that he has always thought I was pretty.  That one made me smile for sure =).  After about an hour of him throwing cheesy lines my way and making every attempt to get me to make out (or maybe in his mind, hook up…haha ya right), we made our way back into town and just drove around for a bit.  I like fast cars and he just got a new one, so he drove around fast for a bit which was fun.  He then dropped me off at my car (still parked at the hospital) and we parted ways.

Honestly, this whole date reminded me of Katy Perry’s song “Teenage Dream.”  It was seriously like one of those dates you had in high school or maybe even freshman year of college where you snuck bottles of alcohol to secluded places and drank.  Only, we aren’t under age.  Not gonna lie either, I had a great time!  It was like reminiscing back to the days where the only thing you really worried about was what you were going to wear to school the next day.  It was fun. 🙂

Positives: Had lots of fun with him, he’s a nice guy, has a pretty car, he’s cute, very sweet

Negatives: Wears WAY too much cologne (seriously, I smelled like him the next day), is super young, most definitely acts his young age (despite what people apparently tell him), immature (though he warned me about this)

*Second Date?: Yea I would for sure.  But I couldn’t see anything happening with him, especially based on his maturity…or more so lack thereof.

Random: “We met through the taps of a keyboard, with a screen between us…”

So when I first started this blog, I made the decision that if I didn’t get halfway through my goal (my goal is 50 men by the end of the year, so 25 men) halfway through the year (so the end of June), I would join an online dating website.  At the moment, I am at 13 dates, with 12 more dates to go to get to my “halfway through the year” goal of 25 and there’s only 2 more weeks until June.  Unless I step up my game and go on at least 2 dates a week (which is highly unlikely since I’m so busy with work) or find the “Prince Charming” who “ends” my blog, it looks as though online dating is in my near future.

While I am not one to judge anyone on how they meet their significant other, for me personally, I find online dating to be a bit superficial and fake.  You look at other people’s profiles and based off their picture (because let’s be honest, when it comes to things like that, we all look at aesthetics first), you decide whether you want to get to know them more.  From there, you look at the information listed on their profile that may (or may not) be true.  With all that information, it’s then when you decide to contact this person to perhaps get to know them further than what is written/posted on their walls.

I feel this is so superficial and fake because one has yet to experience this person in “real life,” if you will,….has yet to truly see another’s emotion and another’s way of socializing.  Basically, a person is judging you/you’re judging a person based off what you believe is true based on the information given.  You’re fed the information without really having your own, personal opinion about said person and based on this, you must make a decision whether to converse with this person or not, and perhaps even meet up.  So, in short, you may or may be speaking/meeting up with someone on completely false pretenses, from the information they said about themselves on their profiles to their profile pictures.

But….who am I to even have an opinion on this?  Many people have met their soul mates on one of these websites I consider superficial and here I am, only at date #13.  Clearly, they’re winning, and I’m not.

ANYWAYS…the reason I am writing this entry is because I need the help of all you lovely people out there who follow my blog!!  I need to know, either from your experience or from what you’ve heard from others, what is the best way to go about dating online.  I need to know the best websites, what to put on my profile, etc.  Any tips are greatly appreciated!!  Please leave all tips in the comment box below in opposed to other ways (aka Facebook, text, etc.) so I can compare and contrast opinions all in one place.  I most definitely would like to hear opinions on best dating websites.  I don’t want one I have to pay for, and I want one that’s pretty self explanatory.  So please, lovelies, send me your suggestions!!  Thanks so much!!  =)

Date # 13: “Boss Man”

How We Met: I honestly can’t remember if we went to middle school together or not…so I’m just going to say middle school.  Because I’m almost certain we did.  I know for a fact we went to high school together.  I wouldn’t say we were ever actually friends, but we had a lot of mutual friends and I know we had talked a couple of times in high school in classes and what not.  After high school, I MAYBE saw him once at a mutual friend’s party (I honestly don’t even remember this, he just reminded me of it), but that was it.  It wasn’t until after college when I started frequenting his place of occupation that we started talking.  I’ve been going there pretty frequently for maybe the past year or two, and I always talk to him, but we had never hung out outside of me just coming in and visiting.  So I suggested that we hang out.

-Rating:

*Physical Aesthetics: 7

*Appearance: 7

*Personality: 10

*Manners: 10

*Intelligence: 7-9, though I can’t say this is an accurate gauge considering this wasn’t something that I could determine based on our conversations

*Confidence: 9

*Overall Rating: 9

The Date: So like I said previously, we had never really hung out before, especially not just us by ourselves, so I guess I didn’t know what to expect.  We had been talking about hanging out for a month or so now, but we hadn’t gotten the chance (or more so “Boss Man” kept forgetting to call me on his days off…asshole…haha).  I think I saw him last weekend at work and I again reminded him how we needed to hang out.  My reasoning behind us hanging out is because I didn’t like how our association was limited to just visits at his work, and I wanted a friendship (or something of that sort) behind it.   Fortunately, everyday he had off this week I also did so we set a night and went out!  Initially, I thought he was going to flake because 1.) I was jaded from my last “date” “Flakey”, and 2.) He didn’t answer my call/text me back for quite some time after we were supposed to meet up, but after him explaining what was going on (he had to deal with a situation involving drunk people), it was a permissible reason.

We ended up just grabbing some drinks around both our works since it seemed like a pretty central area to meet at.  I’m not going to lie, being the lightweight that I have become and not having eaten very much that day, I ended up getting pretty tipsy/drunk.  Whoops.  That’s definitely a first on a date, never thought that would happen.  Anyways, he wouldn’t let me pay for a damn thing, although I tried throwing a stink about it.  =)  We talked a lot about work, considering we both work in the same industry.  It was nice to talk to someone I could relate to about it besides my co-workers and I liked the fact that we have a lot of the same ideals when it comes to our jobs.  In our industry, a lot of times it’s really hard to find people who are actually good at their jobs and have good ethic, so to find someone who does is refreshing.  We also talked about school (both college and high school), and it was good to know he actually did graduate college (me, being an asshole, assumed he didn’t since a lot of people from our high school didn’t….refer to I’ll Call You Later…Not!! to understand my views on this).  He mentioned something about being a complete dick in high school, especially to girls, but weirdly enough I didn’t remember that.  He’s huge into sports, so eventually he wants to open up his own place to train kids, which I think is awesome.  Gotta love someone who has ambitions…again, refer to I’ll Call You Later…Not!!.   Time went by super fast and by the time we actually looked at the time, it was already almost 2 in the morning!!  We decided to call it a night, and he walked me to my car even though it was just around the corner from his.  Very sweet.

I honestly didn’t know what to think or expect going into this, but I most certainly didn’t think it would go as well as it did.  Not for any particular reason, I guess more so just based on my past few dates and knowing my luck with guys.  But “Boss Man” is actually a really cool guy and I am/was so surprised at how well everything went and how well we got along.  I think I also like the fact that we have a lot in common and nothing was awkward.  He was also a complete gentleman the entire time and didn’t try anything retarded with me.  This is most definitely one of my favorite dates, if not #1 favorite date by far.  =)

*Positives: Graduated college, he’s ambitious, he was a total gentleman, we had a lot in common, he was a lot of fun to hang out with

*Negatives: The only thing I can really think of is that he works weekend nights so we’d never be able to hang out on the weekends.  And that’s not even necessarily a bad thing.

*Second Date?: In all honesty, I’d be kinda bummed if we didn’t go out again…and that’s saying a lot since I don’t really care about going on a second date with all the other guys I’ve gone on dates with thus far.  We continued texting after we were both home and even the next day though, so I’m pretty sure there will be a second date in the near future.  =)

But just as a side note…I assure you all I have not quite fallen for this one just yet.  Don’t worry, the dates will still be coming…13 down, 37 more to go!!!

Date #0: “Flakey”

Note: Like some previous dates I’ve had on here, this was not actually a date.  But due to the nature of the situation,  and the fact that the initial intention was for it to be a date, I feel the need to write about it.

How We Met: We met St. Patty’s Day of 2008 (seems like I meet a lot of guys on St. Patty’s Day…oh the irony….) at a college party.  Not sure whose party it was, but I have a feeling it was that of a mutual friends.  Anyways, my roommate had met him first and I can’t remember the story exactly (oh my drunken years…how I don’t miss them), but he was jokingly “proposing” to her and kept calling her his wife.  Then I met him, and he called us both his wives (fucking polygamist….I’m pretty sure he’s not even Mormon).  Again, the rest of the night is hazy, but I do recall flirting with him and hanging out with just him for the rest of the night.  He must have gotten my number at some point because then we began texting.  At this point, I was still very much into “Mr. Big (Past)”, but this guy was so sweet and I was so sick of “Mr. Big (Past)” being such a douche, that I decided to hang out with “Flakey”.  He invited me over to his place one night to watch a movie with him and his roommates, so I brought one of my roommates as well.  The night ended up with all our roommates leaving us and me and him making out.  It was wonderful.  But that’s where the wonderful ends.

We set up a date after that night, for the Monday following our little make out sesh.  We were supposed to go to dinner, and I even by-passed eating with my roommates at a lovely little local pizza restaurant that has AMAZING pizza…all because I was waiting to go to dinner with him.  Well…he never fucking called me.  I waited…and waited.  Nothing.  Finally, around 10pm, he text me to apologize that he had gotten busy or some shit like that.  Basically, making up dumb excuses.  But I wanted to give him another chance (even though I hate flakiness with a passion) so I let it go.  Maybe like a week later, I was invited to a party and invited him to come with  me.  He was all for it and said he would meet me at my house.  So I’m getting ready and am almost finished and I still hadn’t heard from him for awhile.  So I text him asking him where he is a couple of times and he kept reassuring me he was coming he was just waiting on friends.  Finally an hour or two goes by and my roommates and me are antsy waiting for him so I call him again.  Apparently he had decided to go to the party with his friends and he was just going to meet me there.  Fucking annoying, right?  Just tell me you’re not coming!!  That simple.  After this incident, things pretty much fizzled between “us” (I put quotation marks because there really never was any us, I realized later that he was just one of my victims in me trying to get over “Mr. Big (Past)”).  I think about a year later(ish) he tried to get me to hang out a couple of times, which of course I blew off because I knew how things would end up.  He then proceeded to get mad at ME for thinking he wanted anything else but friendship, yet he was asking me to come over late to watch movies and cuddle…yes I now realize this guy is a total douche.

Anyways, enough with the long story.  I hit him up because I’m running out of people to date for my blog and I figured he’d be a good victim.

-Rating:

*Physical Aesthetics: 6

*Appearance: 6

*Personality: 5

*Manners: 2 (I think being a flake plays into manners completely)

*Intelligence: 4-5

*Confidence: 5

*Overall Rating: 5

The Date: I should have remembered the quote “You can never teach an old dog new tricks” when I decided to set up this date.  We had been messaging back and forth on Facebook about setting up a time to get together but it kept not working out.  Finally, we found a day that worked for both of us.  We exchanged numbers and that was that.

He texted me the morning that was supposed to be our date which made me believe that the date would actually go through (although I was still skeptical).  We talked about what we were doing at the moment (he was working while I was enjoying a nice glass of wine with one of my besties) and then he asked me if I wanted to join him for happy hour after he got off.  This made me think that he wasn’t paying attention to anything I said through Facebook, because I had made it clear that I couldn’t meet up till later due to prior engagements.  But I reminded him yet again that I couldn’t meet up till later which he was okay with.

After I was done with all the things I had to do, I gave him a call at the time I said I would.  I didn’t hear back from him for over an hour, which he finally sent me a text saying “Sorry dinner went late.”  This boggles my mind because I had TOLD him I would call him at a certain time and that’s when we would get together, so why would he have not made himself available at that time.  I didn’t text him back, so I get a text message 10 minutes later , “I hope I didn’t make you wait.”  If only he knew that I’m not a dumbass so I already expected this behavior and didn’t even try to wait.  But was I irritated?  Extremely.  Though I played it off like I wasn’t (again, the things I do for my writing) and asked him where he wanted to meet up at.  Again, don’t hear back from him for about an hour, so I decide to send him a message saying that it was already too late and I had to be up early so maybe we could just go another time.  Still, no text back.  About 30 minutes later, he texts me, “I’m up to meet.”  Well NO SHIT, we were supposed to meet up!!  That was the fucking plan!!  It’s not whether he’s up for it or not, it’s a matter of where and when!!  To this, I responded as sweetly as I could: “I already made plans with someone else because I didn’t hear back from you.  Sorry.  Maybe next time.”  It took a lot for me to be nice.  He never text me back after that.

*Positives: Seriously…there are none.

*Negatives: He’s fucking flakey as shit; always has been, always will be, as is apparent here.  He also comes off to me as a bit dim considering the fact that I had to reiterate myself on things I had already stated very clearly.

*Second First Date?: Probably not.  I hate flakes more than anything.  See this blog entry to read more about my hatred for it.