Archive | January 2012

Date #3: “Dum-Dum”

How We Met: We met through some married friends of ours a couple of years ago or so.  Apparently, he has liked me for awhile and he’s been trying to ask me out since last year.  But I was either seeing someone at the time or just wasn’t looking for anything whatsoever, so we never got a chance to go out.


*Physical Aesthetics: 6

*Appearance: 6

*Personality: 5

*Manners: 5

*Intelligence: 3-4

*Confidence: 5

*Overall Rating: 5

The Date: Unfortunately, I have really nothing good to say about this date.  Just warning everyone….

We’ve been planning to go out for a couple weeks now, but just now finally had the chance.  To be honest, I didn’t think we’d be compatible whatsoever (I was right) so I’ve kind of been holding off going out with “Dum-Dum.”  But since I’ve decided to write this blog and have an open mind about EVERYONE this year, I decided to give him a chance.

“Dum-Dum” had been telling me to think of something fun to do, so I suggested we go to Dave & Busters.  I figured that’d be something fun that allows us not only to interact with one another, but to connect with our inner child.  When we get there, he is completely lost on what to do.  Now, I’m not saying we all need to just naturally know what to do when we enter such a place as Dave & Busters, but I feel it is fairly self explanatory on what to do (-ask for help-) when one does not know what they are doing.  He literally waited for me to take the initiative to get us game cards and just stood their dumbfounded as I took control.  Now, if you know me, you know I have a complete intolerance for stupidity.  So this was already starting to turn out pretty bad in  my opinion.

But I decided to open my mind (the shit I do for the sake of writing…) and didn’t let this get me down.  We got our game cards and started playing games.  To be honest, I had a ton of fun!  We played a lot of competition games, which was nice because I’m very competitive.  While he did beat me in a couple of the games, I beat him in the majority of the competition games we played.  I’m not sure if he was just letting me win (which I told him not to do) or if I just actually rock at games, but I was pretty happy that I even beat this guy who looked like he knew how to throw a football at the football throw game.  So we continued to play games and it truly was SO much fun.  Well…I had fun.  “Dum-Dum” seemed to be expressionless or not having a good time – I really couldn’t tell the difference.

So after we played games, we decided to get dessert.  Here’s where the bulk of my frustration started.  I asked him where he wanted to get dessert and he couldn’t give me an answer, or even any choices to pick from.  His main line from the night was, “I don’t know, what do you want do/where do you want to go?”  Now, while I think it’s sweet when a guy lets a girl pick what to do, this guy basically had no opinion whatsoever about anything.  I’m an indecisive person naturally, but even I can make a decision when need be.  So we (I) finally arrived on the decision to just stay at D&B and have dessert there.

We took a seat at the bar and began to talk.  I tried talking to him about things I would normally talk about with other people, like aspirations and goals in life, traveling, sports, etc.  He didn’t really have much of an opinion about anything, just here and there about sports and traveling really.  I was really shocked when it came to aspirations and goals, because he had none whatsoever.  In his words, he just wanted a “simple life” which consists of having enough money to be comfortable.  And while that’s a fair aspiration, he also mentioned that he wasn’t doing too much to progress towards it.  That’s when I told him, “Well, you can’t just sit on your ass and expect things to just happen for you.  You’ve gotta actually do something about it.”  It was then that he kind of cowered, almost as if I had scolded him.  Yet I never raised my voice (no really, I didn’t) nor was I abrasive about it.  I thought it was a bit of an interesting reaction.  Things got even worse when we began talking about traveling.  He told me he had been to all 50 states in the U.S. which I think is pretty cool since I’ve really only been to the East and West Coasts, with a few states in between.  Yet, for some reason, he didn’t know where a BIG city in the U.S. was located (actual quote will be located in my new page about dumb things guys say =) ).  Now, I’m not saying we all need to be geographical geniuses, but you should at least know the important things about a country you live in, such as the name of your President (or Prime Minister in some countries) and the location of major cities.

Long story short, I didn’t know people who appear on “Jay Walking” on the Jay Leno Show actually existed in real life.  This guy was a complete ignoramus in every sense of the word.  I can tell he’s not one who takes much initiative in anything in life and is more than willing to let others make decisions for him whether they be good or detrimental to his well being.  He doesn’t seem to have much of an opinion about anything and he’s the complete epitome of a dud.  Maybe he was just super nervous, but I don’t think nerves play into a person’s intelligence (or in this case, lack thereof).  It was exhausting trying to converse with him because of the lack of content in conversation.  It’s so unfortunate that I really have nothing nice to say, because he truly is a very sweet and nice guy.  I wish I had something good to say about him because I think he tried very hard to make this date good, and I did have fun, but it just wasn’t what, in my opinion, a good date should be.  I could go on and on about the mishaps of this date, but I think this is a good place to stop.

I think he would be better off dating someone a bit younger, more naive and immature…maybe someone who is very “pretty.”

*Positives: He’s a very nice guy, he complimented me quite a bit, he paid for my dessert and drink.

*Negatives: He lacks intelligence all-together, he has no initiative, he isn’t confident in what he wants, he doesn’t appear to have an opinion about anything, is a total pothead, reminds me of “Dolphin Teeth”,  he comes off as very disheveled – not in looks, but more so in demeanor….seriously, I could go on forever.

Second Date?: Highly unlikely.  Though I’m always willing to give second chances in the event a person just had a bad day or what not.  But if I was him, I wouldn’t hold my breath.