Tag Archive | Superficial

Random: “We met through the taps of a keyboard, with a screen between us…”

So when I first started this blog, I made the decision that if I didn’t get halfway through my goal (my goal is 50 men by the end of the year, so 25 men) halfway through the year (so the end of June), I would join an online dating website.  At the moment, I am at 13 dates, with 12 more dates to go to get to my “halfway through the year” goal of 25 and there’s only 2 more weeks until June.  Unless I step up my game and go on at least 2 dates a week (which is highly unlikely since I’m so busy with work) or find the “Prince Charming” who “ends” my blog, it looks as though online dating is in my near future.

While I am not one to judge anyone on how they meet their significant other, for me personally, I find online dating to be a bit superficial and fake.  You look at other people’s profiles and based off their picture (because let’s be honest, when it comes to things like that, we all look at aesthetics first), you decide whether you want to get to know them more.  From there, you look at the information listed on their profile that may (or may not) be true.  With all that information, it’s then when you decide to contact this person to perhaps get to know them further than what is written/posted on their walls.

I feel this is so superficial and fake because one has yet to experience this person in “real life,” if you will,….has yet to truly see another’s emotion and another’s way of socializing.  Basically, a person is judging you/you’re judging a person based off what you believe is true based on the information given.  You’re fed the information without really having your own, personal opinion about said person and based on this, you must make a decision whether to converse with this person or not, and perhaps even meet up.  So, in short, you may or may be speaking/meeting up with someone on completely false pretenses, from the information they said about themselves on their profiles to their profile pictures.

But….who am I to even have an opinion on this?  Many people have met their soul mates on one of these websites I consider superficial and here I am, only at date #13.  Clearly, they’re winning, and I’m not.

ANYWAYS…the reason I am writing this entry is because I need the help of all you lovely people out there who follow my blog!!  I need to know, either from your experience or from what you’ve heard from others, what is the best way to go about dating online.  I need to know the best websites, what to put on my profile, etc.  Any tips are greatly appreciated!!  Please leave all tips in the comment box below in opposed to other ways (aka Facebook, text, etc.) so I can compare and contrast opinions all in one place.  I most definitely would like to hear opinions on best dating websites.  I don’t want one I have to pay for, and I want one that’s pretty self explanatory.  So please, lovelies, send me your suggestions!!  Thanks so much!!  =)