This is a topic that has been under contemplation for centuries….okay maybe not, but you know what I mean. The age old saying of, “Nice guys finish last.” I briefly wrote about this topic last year, and with it posted a video by the lovely Jenna Marbles, in which she makes some great points about the topic. But today, I am going to enlighten you all with something I came up with on my own. It’s something I’ve been thinking about as of late, since I have (or at least have attempted very greatly) transitioned from being the girl who always wanted the “bad boy” to the girl who only wants the “nice guy.”
So here is my new theory: Girls want the “bad boys” because they know what they’re getting. It’s the “nice guys” you have to watch out for, because you never know when they’re going to turn into an asshole out of nowhere.
You’re probably wondering where I got the idea for this theory. I could make it sound profound, and say I was inspired by a writer such as Sappho with her ambiguous sexuality or even Shakespeare, with all his romantic tragedies. Alas, the real answer is Captain Jack Sparrow from “Pirates of the Caribbean.” Yep. He said the following quote:
“Me? I’m dishonest, and a dishonest man you can always trust to be dishonest. Honestly. It’s the honest ones you want to watch out for, because you can never predict when they’re going to do something incredibly… stupid.”
I’ve simply applied this lovely little quote to the dichotomy of “bad boys” vs. “nice guys” and I think it works out pretty nicely. Here’s the breakdown:
-With “bad boys”, you can always expect them to be bad. You expect them to be a jackass to you and you never expect them to do anything nice. While it’s sad to know that a guy will never treat you right, it becomes expected and you know what you’re getting. They’re mean to you, don’t treat you well, never answer you when you try to contact them, and you’re almost always fighting with them about one thing or another. On occasion out of the blue, they will do something very sweet or actually treat you the way you deserve. And you feel surprised, and a bit shocked, and maybe even honored. But then just as fast as that unexpected bout of niceness came, they’re back to being a complete asshole. This is a guaranteed thing. Example of this: “Mr. Big (Past)”
-With “nice guys”, you really don’t know what you’re going to get. They’re great – they treat you well, are super nice to you, almost always respond to your calls and texts (because in the girl world, we really do associate this with “nice guys”), they make you feel super comfortable and the term “fights” is not one that you use in your vocabulary with this type of guy. You’re 100% convinced you finally found a good one who you don’t have to worry about. But you can never predict when they’re all of a sudden going to turn into a giant asshole. You get so comfortable with them being nice that when they all of a sudden turn into an asshole, it’s a bit devastating – especially to the ego. So maybe, they never really were a “nice guy” to begin with, but they just hid it very well?? Examples of this: “Mr. Big (Present)”, “Box Office Hipster” (I haven’t written about him yet, but I will), “Hollywood” (though I think a lot of his issues is that he’s super insecure)
So yeah, that’s just my new theory about the whole “Bad Boys” vs. “Nice Guys” dichotomy.
But here’s another question I have for you all….why don’t you ever hear anything about “Bad Girls” vs. “Nice Girls”?? I mean, it’s definitely out there, but discussions about it aren’t as prevalent. Why is that??
Just some thoughts….;-)